I’ve expounded on the virtues of unfocused time. So what about focusing?
Busy, busy brain.
That busy brain of yours focuses on stuff all the time. You focus on:
- the great conversation you had with a client
- the deadline, once so far away, but now running at record speed towards you
- the great laughs you had with a friend over dinner
- the health concern that is probably nothing, but might be something scary
- the creative idea for you business that just popped into your head
- the fight you had with your partner
- the vision you hold for you business and life…
The power of focus comes from getting clear about what you want and then spending more time thinking about that thing then the other stuff.
Not always. That conversation that just didn’t feel right keeps playing over in your head. You second-guess a decision you made. You doubt your ability to pull off a project.
The downside about focusing on the stuff that doesn’t feel good is that, well, it doesn’t feel good. It creates stress in your life. And you enhance your chances of attracting the very thing you don’t want into your life.
When my monkey mind is dancing with thoughts in the “I don’t want this” category I like to use a tool from the Abraham Hicks materials. You’ll find a focus wheel particularly useful when you’re struggling with the belief that what you desire is attainable.
You‘re ready to launch a new program or service. Every time you think about it you find doubt creeping in. Sometimes it doesn’t creep. It thrashes about and leaves a big mess.
Let’s shift that. First draw a circle. Put the object of your desire, in this case your new program or service, in the center. You can write words or find an image that represents your desire (or both.)
Then draw a series of circles around that central circle. In each of those circles write a statement that relates to your central desire. But make each of the additional statements a thought that you do believe.
If your original statement is “My new service is successful beyond my hopes and dreams” you might write, “My intuition guides me each step of the process.” Whatever you choose should feel good. You should feel soothed as you read it.
When you find yourself focusing on doubts, past failures, obstacles…pull out your focus wheel. Read each of the supportive, easy to believe statements you wrote. Then read the central statement. If you’re like me, your focus will have shifted from stress and doubt to “of course I can do this!”
Focus when it serves you. Be looser with life and with your business when that serves you.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on focusing. How do you use it? What are your tips?